One of my friends on Facebook shared an article she found. (I’ll give you the link to the article at the end of this post.)
There is a very important implication to this. This is an interesting article. I do not know if inanimate objects have a consciousness to them or not. If they do, I do not imagine it’s the way humans have consciousness with ability to have thoughts about thoughts and emotions about emotions. (Meta-Stating)
However, many of us have experienced entering a location that has an emotional tone to it.
I remember one time years ago my mother told me she was helping friends clean a house they were going to move in, and some of the rooms felt “dark and evil.” The couple who moved out had gone through a very bitter separation.
And the emotional tone of their interactions had gotten “attached” to the house.
These concepts are “easy” to test with living individuals.
I’ll get to “inanimate objects” in a moment.
Let’s say you have an argument or are frustrated with your significant other.
And instead of communicating with them, you go and stew about it. That stewing “attaches emotional GUNK” to the relationship and to the other person. (This is why the Bible says “Do not let the sun go down on your anger.”)
What many folks do in addition is they go tell their relative or their friend or anyone who will listen to them gripe and complain – and then the OTHER person also attaches THEIR frustrations, their fears, their insecurities to that other person – “EVEN THOUGH THEY DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH RELEVANT DATA.”
For instance “That guy is just like my daddy, what a jerk!” or “That woman is just like my nagging mother-in-law. You need to drop her like a hot potato!”
These are distortions people attach to others – and then INFECT the relationship with.
There is also a positive side to this – talking about what you like and appreciate and respect about the other person.
It does take at least 5-10 well-formed POSITIVE thoughts to blow out just one negative.
People have these things build up over time, and it infects their minds, their energies, and what they are able to perceive and experience.
I mentioned this happening with inanimate objects.
Did you know when you “gift something to someone” the emotional tone you had while thinking about it gets attached to that gift!
Have you ever had someone give you something because they wanted something in return?
How did that feel to you?
EVEN if it was something you wanted!
Contrast that with someone doing something for you because they like and appreciate you.
That emotional content gets “attached” to the gift.
I remember a funny example of this from years ago. (I won’t go in to more recent examples, since they are “personal.”)
I was attending a seminar my friend was teaching, and we needed notebooks.
So I went to the store and got spiral bound notebooks.
I thought my friend would like a particular color, so I thought to myself (not intentionally, more by default) “Ok, this is his. He should like this. I’ll get this one for him. I don’t like it, but he probably does because of the color.”
I DID NOT KNOW I HAD ACCIDENTALLY “CURSED” THAT GIFT!
It was not with “cuss words” or “swearing.” Most folks do not understand this simple concept.
Easy to verify when you know what to look for.
And the one I LIKED got positive emotions attached to it.
When I got back with the notebooks, he ignored the one I had “cursed” and picked the one I LOVED instead.
I got a funny look on my face, and he instantly knew what I was thinking. He told me “I don’t sort by color. I sort by something else.”
That was one of my first lessons where I started to understand the importance of HOW you think and feel when you do something for someone you care about.
These things are very easy to verify if you know how.
Your emotions and intentions and attention gets attached to the things you do for others.
That does not necessarily mean they will “appreciate” you or what you do.
That is not your responsibility.
You are responsible for how you THINK, how you EMOTE, how you SPEAK – to yourself and to others, and what you DO – your actions.
And those four powers of the mind DO very much affect the people and things around you.
(c) Jim Knippenberg
P.S. Enjoy the article a friend shared shared with me. I’ve included the link here for you. It’s an interesting article.