I found an interesting meme about relationships while doing research on an account I’m setting up.
It reminded me of what Steve Andreas – who was a really excellent NLP trainer and writer – wrote about marriage and relationships.
Steve Andreas said people are attracted to looks in a relationship, but they should also pay attention to the other person’s voice because you will spend much more time hearing someone in a relationship than you will spend looking at them. (Paraphrased.)
The “meme” I saw that reminded me of this said:
“You may fall in love with the beauty of someone, but remember that finally you have to live with the character, not the beauty.”
There’s an energetic component to attraction (which covers a whole lot of territory) that the person who wrote the meme ignored (and might not have known about). I do like the emphasis on the importance of CHARACTER, though. They could improve that.
“Finally you have to live with the character, not the beauty.”
How so? Don’t like their character, find someone with character you DO like and appreciate. “You have to live with it” seems to be a “doomed, poor little ole me” type of mentality, which is also an indicator of Character.
You can choose to find beauty in someone’s CHARACTER.
You always have choices you are free to make.
Character means something much, much different than what many people think it means.